A new survey reveals that fifty nine percent of United States mothers and fathers provide financial support for their grown children. The research covered mothers and fathers of grownup children who aren’t in school. The study concludes the tough economy is stopping them from leaving home. Also studied were so-called “boomerang kids,” or those that move away from home only to return again.
Pressure higher for this generation
President and CEO of NEFE is Ted Beck. He said, “Parents are continuing their involvement longer than we expected. The general sentiment is that financial pressures are higher for this generation.”
This was something mothers and fathers and young adults surveyed agreed with. Of the grownup children surveyed, 65 percent said their financial pressure is harder than their parents’ was. And 32 percent of their mothers and fathers agreed that they had it easier than their kids do. Further, 43 percent of mothers and fathers said they were giving support because they were “legitimately concerned” about the finances of their kids. Then another 37 percent thought they had significant financial struggles. They hoped their kids would not have to face these struggles.
Breaking it down
The lion’s share of parental assist, at 50 percent, is in housing. Living expenses account for 48 percent of parental financial assist. There is also the cost of transportation. That is about 41 percent of aid from parents.
About 42 percent of those kids who still live at home say they cook and clean to help contribute. About 75 percent said they helped financially.
What else is there?
”Face It” author, psychologist Vivian Diller, thinks that this trend has occurred because of the economy. “In the last 20 to 30 years, the family structure has become more child-centered,” she says. “Boomer parents were very willing to make sacrifices for their kids, giving them the sense that it would continue until they were on their feet. Now parents are supporting kids’ lifestyles.”
But, she warns, continued fiscal support could have negative consequences. “Because they have been protected, some children don’t learn reasonable ways to manage money, and they run into trouble.”
How parents sacrifice
Thirty percent of parents that were surveyed say they have given up privacy because of adult kids moving back home. Even worse are the mothers and fathers that took on debt for their children to move in. This involves about 26 percent of responders. Another 7 percent say they have been forced to delay retirement.
“If parents are going to financially support their adult children, they should first have a serious talk about their kids’ expectations so that everyone protects their financial futures,” Ted Beck says. “We all want to ensure the best for our children. But if you are taking on extra debt or delaying retirement to help your adult child, you could be making a mistake and putting your own financial future in jeopardy.”
Citations
ABC
abcnews.go.com/Business/60-parents-provide-financial-support-adult-children/story?id=13648780
NEFE
nefe.org/NEFENews/PressRoom/PressRelease/ParentsFinanciallySupportingAdultChildren/tabid/1015/Default.aspx
Reuters
reuters.com/article/2011/05/27/us-economy-parents-idUSTRE74Q4Y420110527